Relationships Matter: You & the Spider

An analogy

The spider and his web may help us in our understanding. The sensitive web of the spider is an appropriate analogy. It is as necessary to his survival as our relationships are to us. Our relationships are important, influential and an essential part of our lives as is the spider’s web to him.
Have you touched a spider’s web and watched it vibrate its message to the waiting spider? The fine threads of the web transmit the message. Our communication extends through the connections in our personal web. The messages may be electronic. They will be expressed with a variety of emotions. But there is more. There will be gestures, eye contact, facial expression and other content. When we touch the life of another, it causes their web to tremble. Our web vibrates when others touch us in communicating. The connectedness is vital to our experience of life. The message may be positive or negative.
The trembling of the web of life, fragile, yet strong, is set in motion by all the touches we give and receive among the lives we encounter. It is my intention to explore our experiences as we move along the pathway of life…Truly, it is an interactive process. Sometimes we are influenced by a passing touch. An enduring relationship will very likely have more impact. The loss of relationship as we move through life will also alter our experience. “The life that I touch for good or ill will touch another life, and that in turn another, until who knows where the trembling stops.” (Fredreick Beuchner) Our lives are much more complicated than that of the spider, but the analogy teaches us muchThe Question: Does our touch invite others to live or to die?The above is a quote from “The Web of Life” a book written by Glenn C. Taylor. It is available from the author ($18:00) email – glennctaylor35@gmail.com

 

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The Web of Life: An Invitation to Live or Die in the Fabric of Community

Life is about relationships. We spin them into complex webs…The complexity increases with each new addition or loss to our web. (Relationships may be toxic or they may be a tonic.) Our web of relationships is a growing, moving, changing thing. The comings and goings make our web a living reality. We become connected to others. The strength of the connection will vary. The purpose of each connection will be different.

“Connections are relationships. In the web of relationships, we experience others. Our web provides the environment where we interact, communicate, play, argue, have fun and love. The experiences we have in this web or relationships is the essence of life…We also need quietness in which to contemplate our web of life. Quietness and silence are an essential if we are to learn from our experiences. In quiet contemplation, we will become sensitive to the trembling of our web. We will become attentive to the touch of others. That sensitivity can teach us the art of touching the webs of others. With that knowledge, we can become much more sensitive to our impact. And, in quietness, respond to others with wisdom. Reflecting on the touch of other people on our lives may lead to gratitude for those who have affected us in positive ways. The potential for learning from the pain we experience in relationships increases when we enter into thought and silent assessment of the learning in each experience.” (excerpt from chapter 1)

What is the effect of this web of life relationships that we create? Are we richer or poorer for the web in which we live? Do we bring richness or poverty to others…How have your relationships influenced your life for good or ill?

These are questions explore in the book, The Web of Life: An Invitation to Live or Die in the Fabric of Community, written by Glenn C. Taylor.  The book is available from the author ($20.00 plus shipping) or from glennctaylor35@gmail.com, wordalivepress.ca or other booksellers.

 

Other books by G. Taylor:   

Pastors in Transition: Navigating the Turbulence of Change (WordAlive Press, 2013, order -glenmarytaylor@gmail.com)

D’un ministère à l’autre. Savoir naviguer dans les eaux tumultueuses du changement (Excelsis, 2016

Exploring Your Anger: Friend or Foe (Regent College, 1997) with R. Wilson

Helping Angry People: A short-term Structured Model for Pastoral Counselors (Regent College, 1997) with R. Wilson

 

“Connections are relationships. In the web of relationships, we experience others. Our web provides the environment where we interact, communicate, play, argue, have fun and love. The experiences we have in this web of relationships is the essence of life.”  p. 1

“LIFE AND DEATH ARE IN THE POWER OF THE TONGUE” Prov. 18:21

Not only the tongue, but attitudes, actions, silence, sarcasm and many other aspects of relating are equally powerful. The web of our lives may be shattered in many ways.

How is the “unity” and “love” for which Christ prayed possible?

What knits people together and what unravels relationships?

YOU ARE INVITED TO EXPLORE ANSWERS

 

 

 

 

 

Available: November, 2016

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Available: November, 2016

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Other’s comments

“This book has deep roots and a solid foundation. I commend it to you.”

Dr. Rod Wilson, former President, Regent College

 

“Glenn Taylor beautifully interweaves his own life journey and wisdom as a pastor and therapist to explore a theology of nurture…what ‘our citizenship in Christ’ means.” Diane Marshall, Therapist.

 

“You, too, will be pondering this thoughtful, insightful handbook in positively influencing others.”

Rev. David Johnson, pastor

“No relationship is neutral; each touch sets the web in motion.”  Rev. Marvin Brubacher, MentorLink, Canada

 

 
Life is all about relationships.

Relationship with family of origin, spouse, children, friends, fellow-workers, social networks, church and, yes, it is also about our relationship with God and with the people who are part of our community of faith or other social groups. The way we touch the lives of others and the way they touch our lives sets our web atremble.

Life is relationships!

Who touches Your web of life?

Whom do you touch?

Are these touches for good or ill?

 

 

OUR WEB OF RELATIONSHIPS INVITE

US TO LIVE OR DIE

 

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  Glen C. Taylor began his pastoral ministry in 1956 pioneering three churches,   served as correctional chaplain, a professor and counsellor in College and Seminary,   a CEO of a large inner city ministry and as a counsellor/consultant to more than   thirty international mission organizations.He has graduate degrees in theology and psychology and training in trauma   counseling. He provided assessment, pre-field training and counseling for several   thousand missionaries and scores of pastors and church planters. He worked with a   research team addressing family issues in missions for fifteen years.In retirement, he continues to serve pastors and churches in counseling and consultation.His wife Mary, has been a partner in these many ministries including the operation of “Ferlie Brae”, a retreat centre for pastors and missionaries for ten years, during which time they accommodated over sixteen hundred persons. During these years, they also offered training, counselling, conflict management and trauma debriefing in over twenty different countries.This book grew out of experience. One of the greatest contributors to stress and trauma in ministry is moving through the turbulence of change from one ministry to another. Each member of the family experiences transition differently and each experience is different. Spouses and children are often not heard as to their experience. This book seeks to identify and offer healing to those factors.

To contact Glenn or purchase this book directly from him:

Telephone:   519-794-0389    email: glennctaylor35@gmail.com                                      

Pastors in Transition 2

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